I was watching an Oprah rerun last night at Studio 23. They were talking about mean girls.
I thought to myself, Am I a mean girl? And I just had to nod yes.
It's not that I put people down, or that I intentionally shoot down other women. It's just that I don't bother with pettiness (well sometimes I do but that's a WHOLE other story), and that I don't want my time wasted.
I don't take time to talk to people, especially if I know that we will just go around in circles. And that makes me mean, because I don't try to understand them. I will only believe on what *I* know is true and I believe people who I know will tell the truth, and that is just sad.
And I know that not taking time and not understanding can often lead to miscommunication. Being uninformed about how people are will leave one detached from other people and it limits your knowledge of what is true.
Maybe I should slow down once in a while.
Speaking of pettiness.
I think I had too much time on my hands around Christmas time. I was chatting with a couple of people and someone misunderstood what I said and started calling me UGLY. See, if someone calls me ugly and I know that it's not true (Blog ko to, Baket ba!?) don't expect me to just sit down and take it calmly. And besides, if someone said something, you don't call them Ugly. You call them by some other name, like probably b*tch or bobita.
So of course I retaliated and told her that if I was ugly, I can go to the Belo Clinic and have surgery done, but I don't think brain transplant is that readily available.
See, that would have been easily resolved if someone stood back and understood where the other person is coming from. If I did that and just became a bigger person, I would not have wasted 10 minutes being mean to her.
The only positive thing I see out of this is that I was able to get my brain jumpstarted by spewing out witty remarks (Sabi nang blog ko to e! Bakit ba!?).
I'm adding "Think Positive" to my New Year's resolutions.
DA GANDA blogged @ 1/05/2006 03:21:00 PM